We weren’t all born the same so we should not strive for a single idea of perfection, but embrace our individuality.
We only have two ears so we should not try to follow every piece of advice we hear, yet we should gather the truth from experience, learn from our mistakes and understand from a wisdom that only comes from what we’ve done, not from vague assumptions of those who never tried.
We are not defined by someone elses idea of right and wrong, we need to create our own and live by them, with the exception that causing intentional and unnecessary pain will never be right.
A note on perfection
Don’t worry about being perfect; you have all your life to focus on doing what you love and becoming better at who you are.
Your focus should be on enjoying the moments as they unfold, not reaching a level of perfection that doesn’t exist.
Develop good habits and celebrate your victories and accomplishments, but don’t live your life by to living up to expectations that aren’t your own.
What’s perfect for you may not be perfect for someone else, so before you define what perfection is (which IS NOT what magazines and movies portray it as) ask yourself what truly makes you happy and go for it!
A note on taking advice
Everyone has advice to give, in-fact I don’t know a single person who doesn’t have advice to share if you’re will to listen, but it doesn’t mean you should follow it.
It’s very easy to get confused from all the advice you hear.
If something works well for you focus on that and find small ways to improve it.
Almost all large improvements are nothing more than a series of smaller improvements made over time they just aren’t always realized until a massive change occurs.
This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t experiment and try new things.
I believe experimentation is the fruit of life and will allow you to grow and become a better person and do better things, just don’t focus on every shiny object you see and provocative statement you hear.
Most of success in life follows basic fundamentals. If you can find out what those fundamentals are for what you are trying to achieve and follow them you’ll give yourself most of what you need to be successful.
A note on right and wrong
I believe there are absolute rights and wrongs in life, however many of them are simply rules and labels created by those who fear change and uncertainty.
We know that hurting others intentionally is wrong and should be avoided in most situations, but in many cases right and wrong are nothing more than a series of agreements and disagreements between the people who are involved in a decision or choice and how that decision will affect his or her life.
Developing your own sense of right and wrong will help you to find your individuality and question conventional wisdom.
Different states, different countries, different cultures, different rules.